​Do you want to have great relationships by NOT setting boundaries with others who create dramas that waste your energy, money and time?
The very best way to slip into the crazy world of lies, deceptions and madness is to care about what others say and do towards you.
When you are on a path to a happy successful life it is important that you tread your own path and don’t get distracted by others when they treat you unkindly.
Don’t set a boundaries JUST DON’T.
Society has trained us to be co-dependant and put others wants and needs before our own so we are “nice” and accommodating with others who are needy, exploitive, dramatic and angry.
If you have done some personal growth the next bit of training is: 
“I have to set boundaries with toxic others”
This is a tiny step up. Slightly better than being “nice” and betraying yourself.
With that said; it is not very effective.
Your words are like water in a sieve — the water flows in and out of the sieve and you get no where. Your words are a complete waste of effort.
When you set a boundary you are creating the first act of war — it starts the struggle of who will win. Toxic others are usually much more practiced at “war” than the empathic, so it is a huge negative energy vortex to set a boundary.
Unkind others love "playing with" empathic peoples kindness and emotions — it gives them great joy to steal your time and energy in this way.
Set a focus for what you want and DON’T TELL THEM.
Let me tell you — boundaries are not something you set with them — it is something you do within yourself without saying a word.
Toxic others use the following diversions to make it your fault that they are toxic;

• They don’t stick to mutually agreed upon agreements — they effortlessly break them
• They lie when caught
• They don’t take responsibility for cheating/breaking the agreements and lying — they divert all conversation on how the person who picked them up on their deception is “wrong” for doing so…

For example when I had a staff member in my business who was lazy or being unkind I would say to myself;
“My standards for this business, staff and clients will not be reduced by that attitude."

In life that could be rephrased as “My standards for life are honesty, integrity and kindness and I don’t compromise on that.”
I would think; "You will either shape up or ship out — that is up to you."

With that thought I became clear and honest about what was required in their job. I changed with that phrase; everything changed. I worked on shaping them up or shipping them out in the kindest way I could.

Before I came to this conclusion about setting the standards for my life and not saying a word.

I “explained’ boundaries to a reactive staff member the following would happen.

1.    Firstly that staff member would reject that they had broken the agreement of work behaviour.

2.    They would argue with me that I was the problem for expecting them to change.

3.    When they didn’t win this argument with me they would then gossip with the other staff about how unreasonable I was. This would take the focus away from their failures and on to me — they would project that I was a bad boss rather than own their own unkind and toxic behaviours.

4.    This would damage the moral of the other staff members in the business.

Staff who were unkind or lazy were like children who want to fight against authority. They don’t think far enough ahead that their boss is kindly keeping their jobs safe by having the business profitable.

5.    Then the unkind staff member would increase their poor work habits to “test” my resolve. After that the energy would spiral downwards and a big costly, emotional mess would ensure.

I don’t do that anymore, I keep my focus on my standards, the result was the vast majority to staff would listen and improve and the rest… Well they shipped themselves out without me having to say a word.

I would kindly and clearly insist on the behaviours I required and when they realized I was not going to "give in" they would give up in frustration and resign.

The magic of not explaining yourself is powerful stuff.

The only way out of any mess, it to sort out your inner world.  

Your personal work is to create an inner world where you can trust yourself to be “nice” and “polite” TO YOURSELF and not rock YOUR boat.

 It is important that you feel; “I maintain my high kind standards and if you don't want to join me in these standards I am unconcerned — you are not my problem.”

Learn to NOT care when unkind others do dramas, get angry, don’t stick to the mutually agreed upon rules, explain sob stories and tell lies to others to try and get you to lower your kind and ethical standards.

The day that you decide that you no longer care what others think, say or feel about you will be the start of your calm happy and successful, wealthy life.

Understand Disc Pain and how to treat it yourself.

Ease your pain and get back in control of your body and your life.

​Disc pain is not a life sentence of pain it is a treatable condition.​

​Both positive and negative emotions are your soul speaking to you. 

Your positive emotions are letting you know that you are doing your souls work.

​Your negative emotions are there to let you know what you are off your path.

In this meditation you will be taught how to handle your negative emotions in a way that will bring you back onto your souls path.

When your mind is quiet it is more able to understand these concepts and accept them, so that you life becomes more positive and joyful.

Wendy Schulze is trained in the assessment and treatment of Vertigo (dizziness). It can be caused by a number of factors and this is why you will need a thorough assessment.

The Causes of Vertigo

• Benign Paroxysmal Positional Vertigo or BPPV is caused by displacement of calcium crystals in the inner ear.
• Bacterial or viral inflammation of the middle ear
• Multiple Sclerosis
• Meniere's Syndrome
• Acoustic Neuroma and other neurological disorders
• Upper cervical extension muscle spasm affecting vertebral artery flow
• T4 syndrome
• Some medications

Because vertigo has many causes a thorough assessment is required before treatment is performed.

Treatment
The treatment is dependent upon the assessment and cause.

It can include positioning exercises, treatment to the neck and shoulder blade area of the spine. Home exercises and information about foods and positions that trigger the vertigo.

If your vertigo is caused by a medical condition Wendy will refer you to a Doctor for further investigation.

​If you suffer from vertigo book an assessment with Wendy so that you can understand what it is that is triggering your dizziness.

For more information about Vertigo from the Mayo Clinic click the links.
Meniere's Disease
BPPV

We all get angry at times — this is normal and human.

Anger occurs when we have a problem in our lives, it focuses our energy to get things shifting and changing.

Anger literally is a transformational energy. 

We can have positive transformation when we focus our anger on a problem.

We can have negative transformation when we focus our anger on a person — we can even lose that relationship.

In a nut shell anger focused on a problem is healthy however, anger focused on a person is toxic.

It is much more efficient and effective to be angry at a problem.

Some people are feeling stressed by this most unusual time in the world so I spent this Sunday making you all a meditation to relax your  body and mind.

I trust you will enjoy them.

Laughter is also a great way to improve your stress levels, the Mayo Clinic has an excellent article on this.

Wendy’s Four Steps for Anger

 Step 1. Acknowledge that there is a problem and they are important to you.

  Step 2. Explain that you will not discuss the issue until you are both calm

  Step 3. Leave

  Step 4. When you are both calm come back and discuss the problem